Do you want to open up your relationship a bit more by swinging? But you don't know what to think about or have no idea what is possible? Then this blog might be something for you.
What are we going to discuss?
- What exactly is swinging?
- What should you consider?
- Where can you swing?
- How can you meet more swingers?
What exactly is swinging?
Swinging is a form of ethical non-monogamy. This means that couples choose to have sex with others outside of their own relationship, usually together. It is only swinging when there is mutual consent with good and open communication between them.
It is important that good agreements are made before swinging starts. Swinging is a lifestyle that is not for everyone and only works in a relationship in which you trust each other 100%. It is therefore not a last resort for a struggling relationship, if you do this it will go downhill even faster.
What should you consider?
Before you start swinging, certain things need to be discussed about what you do and don't want. You also need to remember that you will need to get tested regularly for STDs, for example at your GP or via the GGD in your region.
Things you need to establish rules about together:
- Who are you going to swing with? With couples, or also with single men and women.
- How far do you go? Full partner swapping, or just oral partner swapping.
- Are you easily jealous? Then swinging could become a problem.
- Only heterosexuality or also man/man and/or woman/woman contact.
- And what kind of sex do you think is good to have with someone else, for example anal sex.
Where can you swing?
Many couples go to swingers clubs to swing, here you go in a sexy outfit such as a nice dress and for the men a nice boxer or thong. If it is your first time in that club, feel free to ask the staff for a tour of the club upon arrival. In most cases this will not be a problem. Take a good look at the website of the club in question to see what the expected atmosphere and dress code is, one club finds a sexy dress okay, while another really demands a sexy lingerie set.
Besides couples clubs there are also several erotic cinemas, check the website for the rules and what you can expect there.
Of course, you can also swing at home by inviting the person or people you want to swing with. Make sure that they are real, for example by video calling in advance. Also make sure that you will not be disturbed by children or your pets when you are swinging at home. So make sure that you have a babysitter for the children and swing in a different room than your beloved pets.
How can you meet more swingers?
You can meet fellow swingers in different ways and in different places. Some examples of this are:
- A couples club
- A free site online
- A paid site online
The Couples Club we just talked about it. The advantage of the swingers club is that you know that basically everyone who walks around inside is a swinger. Another big advantage is that you see and speak to the person in real life right away. So you know for sure that someone is real and what they really look like.
A free site online has the advantage of being completely free. Both a swingers club and online can become expensive over time. The big disadvantage is that these types of sites are available to everyone. So there will also be many single men on here who are just looking for some horniness. Some for photos, others simply for a chat. These single men will cost you a lot of time because you really have to test whether someone is actually real. In addition, online you also have the chance that someone does not dare to actually meet. This is even more difficult to test than whether someone is real or not. In short, a free online site can be useful, but can also take up a lot of time.
A paid online site has of course the disadvantage that it is not free. In addition, you still have a chance of people who are fake or do not dare. The chance of this differs more per paid site. Because it is paid, it will in principle attract fewer people who are simply there for the photos and the horny conversations. In addition, some paid sites have also added extra functions to check the reliability. Such as verifications by the site/app or by verifications by other users.
Personally we go for the swingers club in our area or the paid site SDC. We have found this to be the most reliable site for swingers with a good validation system. Do you want SDC.com If you would like to test for free and support us at the same time, please use the code 37349 when registering.
For extra fun while swinging, take a look at our sex toys or pick up some condoms or lubricant at our drugstore.